Be Kind To Others

I had a bad experience recently, when I asked a simple help from a friend, he returned me with a sour face. I really angry and disappointed at that time, even if he didn't want to help he could just reject in a nice way.

It make me think of what is kindness all about??

I tell you if someone come to me for a simple question or help repeatedly, if I can I will just help. Even f they treated me badly before when they need help that I think I can offer, I will just do it. My principle is, don't let your heart be harden, love and patience need to be practised. I deeply believe love will overwrite all the hatred.

There was once incident about a lost child, as people email to me, for that particular email I sent to one of my friend and this friend of mine return me with a message saying that this kind of email were keep on circulated, meaning quite a disturbing issue. I said sorry but I really thought deeply if I was over reacted? Nope......, I rather be more caring. What she said may be true " quite disturbing " but more importantly I think - more love and caring need to be shown to society today, don't you agree?

They Are Getting Old.......

I noticed that my father's hearing is no good recently, I called him few times but no response even a near distance......I tested him in another incident and he didn't response in time.

My mom went to sleep early at night and she looked very tired recently.

This does not happen suddenly but I notice the signs and symptoms only recently, only now I have a stronger feeling that they are getting old .....I don't know may be this awareness is good so that I can start serving them better; I still have a wish to bring them oversea with their most lovable grand son and grand daughter.

Today I purposely go and check some of the good message that I kept in the email, its message still touch me very much when I read them again......especially since I become mother of two children. Some of the sentence really make me cry .......It says:

Dear Son and daughter,

Do you know how much time I spent to teach you to eat good, to button up, to tie shoes lace?

Do you still remember how long we repeated it before you sang your first rhymes?

If now I dirty my shirt when I eat, forget to button up, if I repeating and repeating the same old story, please do not nervous, give me necessary time and be patience to me.....

When my tired leg do not allow me to walk, give me your hand just like the same way I did when you gave your first step........

The most important thing is not my conversation but surely to be with you and to have you listening to me.

I think I start having some pressure now, all in my life I depend them for so much for so long, I really can't imagine what will happen if I lose them one day, I thought I have grown up but until this stage I realise I am still not yet. This notice really make me thinking about - how to raise them, thank them and show love and appreciation to them in time, thanks Lord I still have many things I can do and still have time to do it.

Friends, appreciate your parents and love them today just like them loved you always when you was young.....

Work As a Team

After today meeting about the youth ministry in church, I am glad because I see the unity among the members. It is so beautiful that all united in the love of God. People that from different background, different perceptions can come to a compromised point of views. All I see are the unity, love, humble and obedience among the team members.

No doubt that when there are people around there are arguments. For a very long long time I was always compromised myself to please others, I was very much afraid to fight with people in work place or in the church. I might be too serious when I say fighting or I should change to I used not to insist strongly on certain opinions. However, sooner or later I found sometimes insistence is necessary and argument is unavoidable sometimes. I learn to accept it and shouldn't be too personal and believe every suggestion or opinion that are putting out are for the sake of good intention.

What I learn from the recent project that I work on is that - If you want a project to be succeed, work as a team, HOW? First admit everyone has his/her weakness, we try to cover, forgive and forgo. What we need to do is use our strength to serve in our area. We are born to help each other, to complete each other as there is no one is perfect in this world. If you team is united, I can't promise it will bring success definitely but I am sure if the team is not one hearted, sure the project will fail.

Life Is A Prisoner Without Hope

Just last week, my husband and I were talking about our life, things just seems not going so well in his career, and we are facing what others are facing- raising two kids with less free times, worry about financial status, fearful of security nowadays, life is repetition of works, house works .......The discussion just has NO Ending, No Conclusion, No Joy ....but Endless with "Hai Hai Hai" (sigh) . We both admit life has nothing special and is meaningless without HOPE and PURPOSE.

We could not continue to be like that so we were down for 1 day and we knew we need to arise again with confident and hope , and we made it.

You know, I used to be in bad mood easily and could be down from 1 day to 1 week when I was young so I can understand quite well when people are sad or not happy or lost along their life journey. I always feel sorry about them and hope they won't repeat the same thing I had done in the past. You know what, it take a lot of courage and strength to stand up again from the situation.

Below are what I normally do when I am down or in frustration:

1. Pick Up My Hope and Dream Again -we cannot live without passion.

2. Be positive and believe good things will happen soon.

3. Count The Blessing - Count what I already have, I don't take things for granted.

4. Pamper myself sometimes say buy a beautiful cloth, eat a big dinner or sleep long long long hour.

5. Throw out your frustration to your loved one or friends.

6. Help others in poor or worsen situation than me, I find my value and purpose of life.

7. To me, most important of all is to find strength in God, ask for blessing and this is the most effective way to get up faster. With all the promises He gives, I believe things will be straightened out anyway. His words really comfort me when I am in doubt, fear and frustration.

Lastly, this is some verse from bible, I hope it does help you too.

“If you will be a prisoner of hope, God will restore back to you double everything that was stolen” ” (Zechariah 9:12).

"Be bold, be strong, for the Lord is with you" (Joshua 1:9).

"Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy-laden and overburdened, and I will cause you to rest. I will ease and relieve and refresh your soul.” (Matthew 11:28 AMP).

What Did I do During Hari Raya?

Wow, I am so excited because I got some news friends visited my blog. It is so happy when I see new faces in my blog log and it keep on "growing". I must apologies lah because of not able to answer your comment and say thank you for those dropped by because I was occupied in the past few days. I was kind of "resting" and "disappear" in the past few days. Hm, lazy no good ah!

When I say occupied sound busy actually not but upon my husband and children request, I think I as a wife and mother must spend more time with them. Since I started this blogging world, I have stolen some of the family hour and boss's time, so I think I should "Repent and Change" lah! Ha! (cannot be too addict ho, agree? Family and work should come first)

Well, what did I do during Raya? Nothing special lah, shopping in Pyramid -Visited Popular , my girl is fond of books. Visited my friends house and celebrated my brother's birthday.

Hm, I am so happy because I find a Eco Save Hypermarket opens in my housing area, also a Chinese Primary school will open in this area too. Yes, means to say my place has more value, ha ha,ha good good good! Besides, my place is very convenience leh, do you admire me?? (Ha!) I am intend to send my girl to Chinese school when she was 7 years old. Too happy to hear these good news.

Hey friends, TELL ME what did you do during Raya????

My Friend Still Can't Find Her Dog

Follow my post on Oct 11, to those concern about the dog, this is some update from me as at now. Even my girl friend has printed a lot of her pictures and distributed in her area, so far receive no news yet from anyone. She continue sleepless at night.......

I told her today not to give up easily although one week had gone, let's wait and see if miracle will happen...

My Friend's Dog Is MISSING!

Oh no, my friend's beloved dog Sheena is missing. She is a Shitzu, so pretty and cute. My girl is so fond of her. It jumped out from car and got missing at night just like that yesterday at her apartment car park. My friend so sad and cried the whole night. This friend of mine I seldom saw her cry, it really mean to her......

I saw its missing notice with picture on it, I think I know her feeling although it is just a dog. So can you imagine the feeling of parents who got their child missing?? I know at least something I can do for her, I have prayed for this issue and tonight I will pray with my daughter again, I am waiting to see miracles happen.

Take It Easy

I thought I could come home earlier today, who knew a last minute and urgent order held me back until 6.30pm. When I reached home, I saw lot of clothing pile high on the sofa, no dinner, a messy room... Then only I found out my mum is sick. So I have to start working again- cleaning the mess, bring my child to bath, mop the sticky floor......


Sometimes things just happen out of our control, but I start learning thru the process. I tell myself if we cannot calm our self, normally we will make things even worse. Like today, I have finished my work and about to go but things just happened not as per plan, the more I felt rush the more I couldn't concentrate, so I purposely slowed down my action, think where to seek the information first in order to complete the order.


When we are rushing about we tend to get angry easily, and thing just seems take longer time to resolve. So one of my self-improvement target this year is learning to be patience, self-control, slow down my action, knowing things will not getting worst than we thought , even it will get worst , we have to take it easy.


By saying so is not enough, practise and implement is just far more important. This is another way of positive thinking and I find myself be more competent when deal with whatever situations. To me, the most obvious improvement this year is the way I handle my job- it is no longer that stress then before. Situation or environment doesn't change, but the attitude and thinking change will make a different.

What do You See??

Tell me, what do you see from the picture? Think, before you scroll down for answer (don't cheat, I will know it)......





I see a professional shot. (I know it but this is not the focus today, try again).......

I see - the cloth is not straight. (NO, please be focus, one more try, it is your last chance)........





I see a bottle. (Yes, the answer is almost there, come on try some more, you can do it).........





I see the bottle is half full only.
(Ok, you get it but I would say you got it half right). Hm, hm... see the professor is talking:


What you see it here, some may reply the same answer as you, some may see think differently - " There is still half bottle left". Any different between the two answers???


Yes, the attitude is different.


The formal answer sounds negative, but the later answer is much more positive. Believe me, what you see is how you think. What you think is how you react. If you think negatively in small matter or issue, this is how you react when you face a greater challenge and difficulties in life.

Life is full of challenge, some can take it easily, some may not able to cope it, WHY???

My point of view is if the way we think, our core value is not set right, we will walk in disappointment, condemnation and criticism. Doubt??? Ok, let me end with this example below:

I saw many parents did it when their children fell down, they will normally beat the floor with hands and said "Don't cry baby, don't cry, mama beat the floor ok, this floor is no good one" (beat the floor even harder this time). When the baby grown up later it will become you and me today- always point finger at others when thing goes wrong.

By now, if you are smart enough, I think you know what is the best choice now. Lastly, train yourself to start have positive way of thinking so that you will have a right attitude towards your life ahead and I wish you a happy life forever.

So Pity!

Started from Li Ya was born 5 years ago, I have stronger feeling towards those children that are sick, poor, orphan, and unhappy children.

How unlucky are those don't have anything to eat -

Although we know these are occurring in every parts of the world, however a heart broken feeling still arise in heart when heard of this. Just yesterday, my colleague said there are some children in Cambodia are beggaring for food even they are just 3-4 years (can you imaging your loved one 3-4 years is beggaring along the road, they are so tiny and weak, really want to cry).


How sad to see the children are suffering from bad health-

Especially those are handicapped in physical and brain damaged which need help from others the whole life. Families with this kind of child just seems lost all their hope. Imagine if they are orphan, their life will just end like that if no proper taken care of.


How to make a change?
I hope I can have more chance to dedicate to this group if I can . God, please lead me to this group in form of time, caring, money that I can submit. I know if only your love and faithfulness can bring joy, love and hope to those live in dark, sadness for you are light and a gracious God. Even a handicapped person, you can use them to glorify your name for you have an abundant life and good plan for everyone.

Words of Mouth - Joking

I like to joke, I think most of the people like to joke as well. Sometimes we tease people because we want to joke and bring amusement. Worst still, we think they know us well, we think they know this is a just a joke. So, we continue to bring laughter by joking at others. However, this is just our own thinking, we don't exactly know how someone is thinking, if too much of joking sometime becomes serious matter, we might go too far without realising it - the words we speak just too powerful, it can raise one up or destroy one self's esteem.

If you said "Can't you take a joke?", who knows someone would say "I can't see the joke!" Oh oh, can't you imaging how embarrass the situation is, worst still, it might hurt someone unintentionally.

I try to guard my mouth as bible says "He who guards his mouth keeps his life, but he who opens wide his lips comes to ruin”.

To me, this is not an easy task to learn and I am trying my best to guard my mouth nowadays before I have made any regret or awful thing. I hope I can use my mouth to bless others rather than to ruin someone. This is just one kind of wisdom and self control that I want to in store in life.

Please Remind Me To Remind You, OK!

Many of us have this habit, think about it if you have the same habit like this:

Your husband said "Please remind me to buy a shampoo tomorrow" (if you forgot to remind, he would be angry at you for not reminding him);

Your mum said "Please remind me to bring back the medicine" (if you forgot, you get scolded even worst);

Your boss said "Please remind me to follow-up this case" (I kept quiet because I couldn't fight back )

I told my daughter "Please remind mommy to buy milk powder, toilet roll, cheese, yogurt......(a long list, but I am not trying to push responsibilities but to train her memory lah!)

How would you response to this kind of "request" when asked?

Yes, normally I would say "Please remind me to remind you, OK!" Ha, ha, I think this is a good and humorous answer (except not applicable to your boss). It remind them to take back their own responsibility.

For those who practise it frequently, please reduce your no of "request" unless you just want to train up some one's memory like me is okay.

Violence vs.Peace

For your information, my friend told me there is an exhibition going on in town named "Transforming The Human Spirit" - it carry a strong message that the need of transforming culture of violence to a culture of peace. It will give you more ideas what is violence all about. You may relate violence as robbing, snatching, drug addict, murdering etc, but how many of you know that even anger, jealousy, greedy, say destructive word are part of the violence. If you need to know more, you may bring your family there and check it out.

It is organised by Soga Gakkai International, in fact this is an international exhibition, it keep on rotating in many countries and now is in town. I can't scan you the map but address given as follow.

I myself support this kind of self-examine and self-reflect campaign and this Cultural Dept of Soga Gakkai really did a great job on promoting peace in the world through cultural activities, educations and talks.

I agree that creating awareness among the society is necessary and important because this is the first step to achieve the goal -a peaceful world, however I doubt if this is enough. There are many organisations out there in the world come up with many voices. They try to create awareness also on how to protect our environment and animals, help taking care of poor and weak and many many more. Does this phenomenon tells us one thing - the world is getting worst and people is getting sinful and violence although we are living in the most hi-tech, knowledgeable and advanced society today.

People are empty, facing a lot of problems and challenging than ever, we tend to become more self-centered, selfish and protective. When we live in this kind of situation, do we still have strength and determination to overcome all these problems? One self cannot do anything that's why we need to keep on spreading the news to create awareness among people, and it will become a force - a force which is able to change something.

To me, I believe oneself can do better than this if we have a more powerful strength come in life just because we are too weak to act good. Just as bible says"I know that nothing good lives in me, that is, in my sinful nature. For I have the desire to do what is good, but I cannot carry it out".

Lastly, please view the schedule and venue of the exhibition as follow, FYI, there are some activities going on for children such as singing, story telling and handicraft making. I am sure your siblings also can get the message out of it. The test of the exhibition is in English, translation is available upon request.

Date: 22-30/9/2007

Venue: SGM Selangor Culture Centre

Lot 23686, Jalan Selampit 29, Taman Klang Jaya, Klang, Selangor

For enquiry: 03-3324 3120

Opening hours: 10am-9pm daily

Yes, I did it !

Wah, I can't believe finally I did it. See some different in my blog?? Neh, the sliding picture of my children growth.

You can't imaging how long I have tested before putting up this (I tried Picasa2 few days but seems it doesn't fit the purpose so I use Slide and I got everything that I need), yeah, now I don't have to envy others blog, I can do it now.

As I am new to the blogging world, I don't have techniques and knowledge at all, so I am learning step by step, day by day and I am quite satisfied with my progress. The only difference after joining this world is I need to sleep very very late....like now it is already 3.35am.....see you later....and I will sleep tight.

Lastly, not forget to give you some encouragement here -

Everyone sure can get over whatever difficulties that faced today, what you need are just faith, persistence and determination.

Say something nice, please!

This is really frustrated when you are keen at doing something but you don't get support or enough support from your loved one. From the word they spoke, even though they don't say "No" directly but you still can feel their coldness. So, in this moment of difficult time, be strong and positive. You should know the biggest enemy is not who defecting you but is your own self.

Also, remind our self that be good to others, speak something that is encouraging but not negative or destructive words cause the the world is already much overwhelming with negative thoughts and sound.

Complete Your Duty Today

What a busy day - whole day training in the company, have dinner with colleague, do washing after home and making my baby sleep. Finally I am managed to finish all my duties of today.


Let me remind you a simple secret here to make your life much happier. Just as what we were taught in our primary school "complete all your tasks each day" and this rule never change. With no burden in your heart, you will surely feel lighter and happier, sleep sound and peace......